# 77 - Holiday Series:  Why Your Christmas Doesn’t Depend on Their Sobriety

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Podcast: [Addiction Makes Three](https://stenobird.com/podcast/addiction-makes-three-6629851)
Published: 2025-12-11T05:54:39+00:00
Episode link: https://shows.acast.com/addiction-makes-three/episodes/77-holiday-series-bonus-episode-hope
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## Resource

Part 6 of the Holiday Series If you’ve lived through more than one chaotic December, you’ve probably told yourself: “Christmas will only be okay if he’s sober.” “Maybe this year will be different… if he sticks to what he promised.” In this bonus episode of the Holiday Series, I am sharing the part nobody really tells spouses and families of someone struggling with addiction: Your experience of Christmas doesn’t actually depend on whether they drinks, use, shows up on time, or follow through on promises. It depends on you having a plan, support and steadiness in yourself. I talk about... Why most people here quietly assume “this is just how December is now” …and how that belief keeps you stuck repeating the same painful holiday patterns, year after year. I share stories from past clients and how they went into Christmas with a plan, even while their partner’s drinking/drug use was unpredictable. and what actually changed for them and their kids. The hidden cost of “I’ll just handle it” and why white-knuckling your way through the holidays leaves you depleted, resentful and running on fumes by New Year’s. How to shifting from “waiting for them to be better” to “I’m allowed to create calm, clarity and moments of joy independent of what they do.” What realistic hope looks like when you’re the safe parent, and howow to hold both: grief for what you wish your family could be and hope that your holidays can feel different from the inside out. If this episode feels like it’s narrating your life, you’re not broken, dramatic or asking for too much. You’re exhausted from carrying far more than anyone can see, and you deserve support, too. And your holiday experience can be different (even if nothing changes on their end) 🎄 JOIN THE FREE HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE WORKSHOP This is whe…

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