# 101 - It Steals Us Away from the Person We Used to Be

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Podcast: [Addiction Makes Three](https://stenobird.com/podcast/addiction-makes-three-6629851)
Published: 2026-06-24T11:32:03+00:00
Episode link: https://shows.acast.com/addiction-makes-three/episodes/101
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## Resource

What happens when you spend so much time focused on someone else's addiction that you stop recognising yourself? In this episode of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda explores one of the quieter impacts of loving someone struggling with alcohol addiction, substance use, or addictive behaviours: the loss of self that can happen along the way. Through powerful listener voice notes and Amanda's own experiences, this episode dives into what it looks like when your thoughts become consumed by someone else's drinking, recovery, moods, choices, and wellbeing. You might recognise yourself if you've ever found yourself wondering: 💛 Why am I always thinking about their drinking? 💛 Why do I feel so exhausted all the time? 💛 Have I lost myself in this relationship? 💛 Why don't I know what I want anymore? 💛 How do I stop addiction consuming my life? Amanda shares why this happens, how loving someone with addiction can slowly pull us away from ourselves, and why reconnecting with who you are doesn't have to start with a huge life change. This episode is part of the OUT LOUD series, sharing the real voices and lived experiences of people impacted by a loved one's addiction. 👉 FREE LIVE WORKSHOP - July 2nd | 3rd replay will be available Letting Go Without Giving Up - Finding Peace Whether Your Loved One Is Sober Or Not If you've ever found yourself thinking: "I'll feel better when they get help." "I'll relax when things settle down." "I'll be happy when the drinking stops." This free live workshop is for you. Together, we'll explore how to stop carrying so much of what was never yours to carry, how to find more peace in the moments you can control, and how to start reconnecting with yourself again. Because your life doesn't have to stay on hold while you wait for someone else to change. Ju…

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