# Why People Pleasing Happens (And How To Stop)

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Podcast: [A New Way of Being](https://stenobird.com/podcast/a-new-way-of-being-3488629)
Published: 2026-03-11T06:00:00+00:00
Episode link: http://www.simonmundie.com
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## Resource

People pleasing often looks kind on the surface. But over time it can lead to exhaustion, resentment - and burnout. In this episode, I explore why people pleasing develops in the first place and why it’s rooted in a childhood strategy to secure love and approval. More importantly, I share a different way of working with the pattern. Instead of trying to force yourself to “stop”, the real shift comes from recognising the deeper fear driving it and learning how to meet that feeling directly. When you do, something surprising happens: the pattern begins to soften, and the approval you’ve been chasing outside yourself becomes far less important. If you struggle to say no, overcommit, or feel responsible for other people’s emotions, this episode will help you understand why - and what actually leads to lasting change. To explore this work more deeply, you can book a free 15 minute 1:1 consultation here : https://calendly.com/simon-wgw/simon-mundie-intro-call Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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