# It's Gonna Get Messy-  Becca Eve Young on Intuition, Grief, and the Courage to Stop Performing

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Podcast: [A Joyful Rebellion](https://stenobird.com/podcast/a-joyful-rebellion-6584132)
Published: 2026-06-27T21:53:55+00:00
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## Resource

Most of us are really good at looking like we've got it together. Becca Eve Young decided to stop pretending. She's a coach, author, and former corporate climber who did all the things — MBA, corner office, company going public — and watched it all collapse in the same year her dad died, stranded alone in rural Mexico during a global pandemic. What came out the other side was a book called It's Gonna Get Messy. She helps people stop performing their lives and start actually living them. We talk about the societal scripts we never agreed to, the inner knowing we keep ignoring, what it really costs to keep the mess hidden, and why the connections we're all looking for are on the other side of being honest about the hard stuff. If you've ever had the nagging feeling that the life you've built doesn't quite fit, this one's going to hit. Shownotes with Chapters: 00:00 Embracing Your Inner Knowing 00:56 Introduction: Losing It All and Finding the Mess 01:39 Why the Mess Is Where Connection Lives 04:34 Breaking Through Growing Up with Shame 05:53 Moving Past the Societal Script 08:24 A Desert Timeout in Rural Mexico 11:20 Unlearning the Rules and Questioning Everything 14:49 A Transcendental Connection with Dad 17:01 Landing Back on Earth and Resetting Reality 18:49 Reprogramming the Mindset with Daily Practices 22:17 Having Compassion for the Mistakes We Make 26:12 Writing the Book for a Past Version of Yourself 29:55 Common Threads: The Cost of Ignoring Intuition 35:42 Moving Through Fear and Asking for Help 39:17 Recognizing the Patterns to Evolve Faster 45:33 Doing the "Mess Reps" and Micro-Moments of Trust 50:32 Connecting with Becca and Stepping into Purpose 52:40 Final Thoughts: Embracing Structure and the Fundamentals Resources Mentioned: Website: https://www.beccaeve…

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